Change

When life doesn’t change, we get bored. Christmas is fun until we don’t want to listen to Christmas music anymore. Warm summer days are nice until we get tired of the heat. Spending a lazy morning in bed is relaxing, but eventually most of us want to get up. We seek change in an effort to repeatedly experience something new. Change is also difficult. It’s hard to accept that things are different than before and that unexpected things may happen. It’s sad to say goodbye to the things we loved. As a parent, I cried when I tried to pick…

The Myth of the Perfect Tribe

Finding your social support group is the hardest part of being a member of a social species with emotional desires for inclusion and acceptance. It starts at age 0 and continues throughout the life journey. We look for friends, family members who seem safe, partners we can team with long-term, and intellectual peers. When we don’t feel like we are part of a supportive group of people, we may change who we are to fit in, even when doing so feels like an emotional death. We may cut out people who don’t meet our needs or wants. We may also…

Figuring Out the Next Step

Whether we are planning a trip, career, hobby, relationship, or website, the question repeats, what is the next step? Every step is a first step in a new direction, and we are always figuring out which new direction we want to go. Even if we are choosing to stay right where we are, we are still choosing a direction. When someone asks me what their next step should be, I always wonder where is it they want to go. Since I ask myself daily what my next step will be, I frequently ask myself, where do I want to go?…

Time Saving Services

Content Updated on January 9, 2008 Here are some awesome free services that can save you from wasting hours of your life. Free Services for Your Mobile Phone and Mobile Devices TellMe I started using TellMe back when it first came out (years ago), and it just kept getting better. Just call 1-800-555-TELL, and tell the system what you want. You can also check news, sports scores, weather, stocks quotes, and movie times. You can even get driving directions. If you don’t want to write it all down, you can tell it to send the information as a text message…

How to Stop Procrastinating

Content Updated on January 4, 2008 I’m a procrastinator, so I know how this song and dance goes. You’re supposed to be exercising, but you’ll do it later, right after you finish watching this show on TV. Oh wait, this next show is good too. And you really do need to finish reading these magazines that are piling up, so you can throw them in the recycling bin, which reminds you that you need to take out the trash. Besides, exercising only takes 30 minutes, and you still have 2 hours before you have to leave for work. You’ve got…

The Household Calendar

Page Updated on November 24, 2007 Get Free Household Notebook / Organizer Pages How to Set Up Your Calendar Print Monthly Calendars Print Your Schedules Bind It Divide It Clip It Make a Quick Flip Marker (Optional) Calendar Tips LOOK AT IT! There’s no point in doing all of this if you don’t bother to look at your schedule daily. If you don’t have a habit of looking in your binder every day, post your schedule in a place where you will see it every day, like on your refrigerator. Monthly Reminders Use your monthly calendar to remind you of…

How to Be a Good Host

Updated November 24, 2007 If you or or another family member (even your child) wants to have friends over, you’ll need to have some hosting know-how to make sure that everybody, especially your guests, feel comfortable and enjoy themselves. The Invitation If you’re having a party, definitely send out invitation cards. Having everything written down improves your chances that everyone will know when, where, what to bring, what to wear, etc. If you’re just inviting over a couple of friends, a phone call works well enough, and a face-to-face invitation works even better. Avoid email and text messaging unless you’re…

Giving Criticism

Updated on┬áNovember 24, 2007 Criticisms are the most difficult things to deal with in human interaction. They can prevent, fix, or cause a problem depending on how they are presented. Save criticism for the big stuff. Suggest instead of criticizing. Never say “I told you so.” Don’t be arrogant; you really aren’t superior. Never make comparisons. Never criticize somebody who isn’t present.

What is a Household Notebook / Household Organizer?

Content Updated on October 14, 2007 What Should We Call It? Sometimes it’s called a household organizer, a household binder, a household notebook, a household information book, a home file book, a home organizer, a home notebook, the family organizer, a control journal (popularized by the FlyLady), a household management book, and a ton of other names. In my home, we call it “The Book.” (You could call yours Fred if you want.) What Is a Household Notebook? A home organizer is just like a personal organizer that you carry around with your but acts as a central information center…

Supplies You Need for a Household Notebook

Content Updated on October 14, 2007 3-Ring Binder Avoid binders with too many rings or lose pages. Get yourself a 3 ring binder . I highly recommend getting one that has lots of pockets for things like pencils, stamps, calculators, etc. That way, you’ll always have frequently used items available when you need them. Hole Punch Some people like the single hole punch, but I prefer the bulkier three-hole punches. Three-hole punches are best because they quickly let you punch all three holes at once in exactly the correct place, eliminating the need to line up your paper with your…