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What Can I, a White American, Can Do About Racism?

Like many pages on in this online notebook, this page will be updated from time to time. It is not and never will be complete. Educate Yourself Read Books This is a small list, but it’s a start. A People’s History of the United States by Howard Zinn Race for Profit by Keeanga-Yamahtta Taylor The End of Policing by Alex S. Vitale A Terrible Thing to Waste: Environmental Racism and Its Assault on the American Mind by¬†Harriet A. Washington Watch Videos This is another small list, but it is also a place to start. 13th by Ava Duvernay Black America…

Meet Your Life Guide

We each have an inner critic and a compassionate inner guide. The critic is loud and shames you for mistakes and tells you you’re worthless or hopeless or bad. The guide lovingly nudges you to do better because you’re worthy of better and all the good stuff that goes with it. If your guide is a bit too quiet to hear, get calm, sit down, and ask it to speak to you. Then, and most importantly, listen. Repeat daily. The more you listen to your inner guide, the quieter the critic becomes.

Change

When life doesn’t change, we get bored. Christmas is fun until we don’t want to listen to Christmas music anymore. Warm summer days are nice until we get tired of the heat. Spending a lazy morning in bed is relaxing, but eventually most of us want to get up. We seek change in an effort to repeatedly experience something new. Change is also difficult. It’s hard to accept that things are different than before and that unexpected things may happen. It’s sad to say goodbye to the things we loved. As a parent, I cried when I tried to pick…

The Myth of the Perfect Tribe

Finding your social support group is the hardest part of being a member of a social species with emotional desires for inclusion and acceptance. It starts at age 0 and continues throughout the life journey. We look for friends, family members who seem safe, partners we can team with long-term, and intellectual peers. When we don’t feel like we are part of a supportive group of people, we may change who we are to fit in, even when doing so feels like an emotional death. We may cut out people who don’t meet our needs or wants. We may also…

Figuring Out the Next Step

Whether we are planning a trip, career, hobby, relationship, or website, the question repeats, what is the next step? Every step is a first step in a new direction, and we are always figuring out which new direction we want to go. Even if we are choosing to stay right where we are, we are still choosing a direction. When someone asks me what their next step should be, I always wonder where is it they want to go. Since I ask myself daily what my next step will be, I frequently ask myself, where do I want to go?…

Time Saving Services

Content Updated on January 9, 2008 Here are some awesome free services that can save you from wasting hours of your life. Free Services for Your Mobile Phone and Mobile Devices TellMe I started using TellMe back when it first came out (years ago), and it just kept getting better. Just call 1-800-555-TELL, and tell the system what you want. You can also check news, sports scores, weather, stocks quotes, and movie times. You can even get driving directions. If you don’t want to write it all down, you can tell it to send the information as a text message…

How to Stop Procrastinating

Content Updated on January 4, 2008 I’m a procrastinator, so I know how this song and dance goes. You’re supposed to be exercising, but you’ll do it later, right after you finish watching this show on TV. Oh wait, this next show is good too. And you really do need to finish reading these magazines that are piling up, so you can throw them in the recycling bin, which reminds you that you need to take out the trash. Besides, exercising only takes 30 minutes, and you still have 2 hours before you have to leave for work. You’ve got…

The Household Calendar

Page Updated on November 24, 2007 Get Free Household Notebook / Organizer Pages How to Set Up Your Calendar Print Monthly Calendars Print Your Schedules Bind It Divide It Clip It Make a Quick Flip Marker (Optional) Calendar Tips LOOK AT IT! There’s no point in doing all of this if you don’t bother to look at your schedule daily. If you don’t have a habit of looking in your binder every day, post your schedule in a place where you will see it every day, like on your refrigerator. Monthly Reminders Use your monthly calendar to remind you of…

How to Be a Good Host

Updated November 24, 2007 If you or or another family member (even your child) wants to have friends over, you’ll need to have some hosting know-how to make sure that everybody, especially your guests, feel comfortable and enjoy themselves. The Invitation If you’re having a party, definitely send out invitation cards. Having everything written down improves your chances that everyone will know when, where, what to bring, what to wear, etc. If you’re just inviting over a couple of friends, a phone call works well enough, and a face-to-face invitation works even better. Avoid email and text messaging unless you’re…

Giving Criticism

Updated on¬†November 24, 2007 Criticisms are the most difficult things to deal with in human interaction. They can prevent, fix, or cause a problem depending on how they are presented. Save criticism for the big stuff. Suggest instead of criticizing. Never say “I told you so.” Don’t be arrogant; you really aren’t superior. Never make comparisons. Never criticize somebody who isn’t present.