How to Be a Good Host

Updated November 24, 2007 If you or or another family member (even your child) wants to have friends over, you’ll need to have some hosting know-how to make sure that everybody, especially your guests, feel comfortable and enjoy themselves. The Invitation If you’re having a party, definitely send out invitation cards. Having everything written down improves your chances that everyone will know when, where, what to bring, what to wear, etc. If you’re just inviting over a couple of friends, a phone call works well enough, and a face-to-face invitation works even better. Avoid email and text messaging unless you’re…

Giving Criticism

Updated on┬áNovember 24, 2007 Criticisms are the most difficult things to deal with in human interaction. They can prevent, fix, or cause a problem depending on how they are presented. Save criticism for the big stuff. Suggest instead of criticizing. Never say “I told you so.” Don’t be arrogant; you really aren’t superior. Never make comparisons. Never criticize somebody who isn’t present.

Introductions and First Conversations

Page Updated on July 28, 2007 Names Should you call him Mr. Smith or Joe? This is a topic of hot debate. People often feel passionate about how we should address people. The waning use of last names is something that upsets many traditional people, especially in the South, but not using a first name may offend people who see last names as impersonal. Some situations may require the use of last names (e.g. Doctor Smith, Private Hughes, Officer Crouch, Professor Ball, etc.). Most social situations don’t require it, though, because the use of last names is impersonal. To keep…

The Art of Good Conversation Skills

Content Written/Updated on May 12, 2007 Anyone can learn to improve their conversation skills. While growing up, I always admired anyone who could carry on a conversation, especially an interesting conversation, and I often worried that I would never have such an ability. In college, I finally began to develop that ability, but it wasn’t something that I learned naturally. It took time to learn, and then I needed to practice at every chance I had. The Rule of Good Conversation: Make the Other Person Comfortable Don’t complain. Give lots of compliments. Make eye contact and smile. Don’t interrupt, verbally…

Tipping and Gratuities

Content Written/Updated on March 29, 2007 How much should I tip? Should I be obvious when I tip? Should I tip secretly? Should I let anybody see my giving a tip? What do I do if I think they don’t deserve a gratuity? Tipping doesn’t need to be complicated. Here are some guidelines to help you out. Why should I tip? Tipping (a.k.a. giving a gratuity) is a way to say, “Thank you for doing a good job. I appreciate your effort.” I often hear others say, “Why should I tip? They pay him to do his job.” Keep in…