What Can I, a White American, Can Do About Racism?

Like many pages on in this online notebook, this page will be updated from time to time. It is not and never will be complete. Educate Yourself Read Books This is a small list, but it’s a start. A People’s History of the United States by Howard Zinn Race for Profit by Keeanga-Yamahtta Taylor The End of Policing by Alex S. Vitale A Terrible Thing to Waste: Environmental Racism and Its Assault on the American Mind by¬†Harriet A. Washington Watch Videos This is another small list, but it is also a place to start. 13th by Ava Duvernay Black America…

Meet Your Life Guide

We each have an inner critic and a compassionate inner guide. The critic is loud and shames you for mistakes and tells you you’re worthless or hopeless or bad. The guide lovingly nudges you to do better because you’re worthy of better and all the good stuff that goes with it. If your guide is a bit too quiet to hear, get calm, sit down, and ask it to speak to you. Then, and most importantly, listen. Repeat daily. The more you listen to your inner guide, the quieter the critic becomes.

Change

When life doesn’t change, we get bored. Christmas is fun until we don’t want to listen to Christmas music anymore. Warm summer days are nice until we get tired of the heat. Spending a lazy morning in bed is relaxing, but eventually most of us want to get up. We seek change in an effort to repeatedly experience something new. Change is also difficult. It’s hard to accept that things are different than before and that unexpected things may happen. It’s sad to say goodbye to the things we loved. As a parent, I cried when I tried to pick…

The Myth of the Perfect Tribe

Finding your social support group is the hardest part of being a member of a social species with emotional desires for inclusion and acceptance. It starts at age 0 and continues throughout the life journey. We look for friends, family members who seem safe, partners we can team with long-term, and intellectual peers. When we don’t feel like we are part of a supportive group of people, we may change who we are to fit in, even when doing so feels like an emotional death. We may cut out people who don’t meet our needs or wants. We may also…

Figuring Out the Next Step

Whether we are planning a trip, career, hobby, relationship, or website, the question repeats, what is the next step? Every step is a first step in a new direction, and we are always figuring out which new direction we want to go. Even if we are choosing to stay right where we are, we are still choosing a direction. When someone asks me what their next step should be, I always wonder where is it they want to go. Since I ask myself daily what my next step will be, I frequently ask myself, where do I want to go?…

Files You Can Discard

Content Updated October 3, 2007 You don’t have to keep every piece of paper forever. Here’s a list of items you can eventually throw out. Tip: If you are worried about throwing something out, get yourself a scanner and scan your documents into your computer. Burn them onto a CD or DVD and store them in a fireproof or safe deposit box. Monthly ATM statements (after you receive your regular bank statement and verify that the ATM transaction is on the bank statement) Receipts for items you can’t return, are not tax deductible, and don’t have a warranty After 1…