Change

When life doesn’t change, we get bored. Christmas is fun until we don’t want to listen to Christmas music anymore. Warm summer days are nice until we get tired of the heat. Spending a lazy morning in bed is relaxing, but eventually most of us want to get up. We seek change in an effort to repeatedly experience something new. Change is also difficult. It’s hard to accept that things are different than before and that unexpected things may happen. It’s sad to say goodbye to the things we loved. As a parent, I cried when I tried to pick…

The Myth of the Perfect Tribe

Finding your social support group is the hardest part of being a member of a social species with emotional desires for inclusion and acceptance. It starts at age 0 and continues throughout the life journey. We look for friends, family members who seem safe, partners we can team with long-term, and intellectual peers. When we don’t feel like we are part of a supportive group of people, we may change who we are to fit in, even when doing so feels like an emotional death. We may cut out people who don’t meet our needs or wants. We may also…

Figuring Out the Next Step

Whether we are planning a trip, career, hobby, relationship, or website, the question repeats, what is the next step? Every step is a first step in a new direction, and we are always figuring out which new direction we want to go. Even if we are choosing to stay right where we are, we are still choosing a direction. When someone asks me what their next step should be, I always wonder where is it they want to go. Since I ask myself daily what my next step will be, I frequently ask myself, where do I want to go?…

Files You Can Discard

Content Updated October 3, 2007 You don’t have to keep every piece of paper forever. Here’s a list of items you can eventually throw out. Tip: If you are worried about throwing something out, get yourself a scanner and scan your documents into your computer. Burn them onto a CD or DVD and store them in a fireproof or safe deposit box. Monthly ATM statements (after you receive your regular bank statement and verify that the ATM transaction is on the bank statement) Receipts for items you can’t return, are not tax deductible, and don’t have a warranty After 1…